Posted Sep 4th, 2015 (11:02 am) by Heather Starks

There's a double standard in music that shames women for the having slightest wild notion, but puts the men who say the exact same thing up on a pedestal.

In a recent interview with i-D magazine, Vince Staples brought up a comment made by Miley Cyrus in reference to a Kendrick Lamar song - Vince took issue with the pop singer because she incorrectly attributed a song about LSD to Kendrick Lamar. Staples demanded an apology, and even questioned if Cyrus can tell black people apart: "She didn’t know who she was talking about. Kendrick Lamar doesn’t have a song about LSD — that’s A$AP Rocky. So is it either you don’t know what you’re talking about or is it all black people look alike? Either one is fine with me but shut the f–k up Miley Cyrus."

Whether Cyrus incorrectly attributed the song to Kendrick, or simply misinterpreted the lyrics of his song "Lucy" remains unclear. What is certain, is that the comments that Cyrus made at the time of this gaffe deserve a closer look, but not because she needs to apologize to Kendrick Lamar. In an interview with Marie Claire, the singer opined about violence in music videos, specifically referencing Taylor Swift's "Bad Blood":

"I don't get the violence revenge thing. That's supposed to be a good example? And I'm a bad role model because I'm running around with my titties out? I'm not sure how titties are worse than guns." She then went on to say, "Kendrick Lamar sings about LSD and he's cool. I do it and I'm a druggie whore."

The issue at hand. It took Cyrus all of four sentences to sum up some of the biggest issues in our society and music as a whole: Why is that when women express their basic human need for sexual gratification, they are labeled as sluts and whores? Why can't the ladies do ALL the drugs and party all night long without waking up the next day to condemnation? And most importantly, how did we become so ashamed of the female body that violence, death, drugs, and abuse are acceptable themes to glorify over a meaningless nip slip?

Let's take a look at some clips from a few videos, shall we?

Oh, Nelly. Always got naked ladies on speed dial.

Sample of lyrics from this Mob Deep song: "We got the most gangsta shit, the second most biggest projects/We sold the most crack, since '86/We don't handle a lot of pricks, we the most thug/You think you're dirty over there/but we're more dirtier/We last more longer than them; more songs than them/More money for us, more broads than them."

And just for fun, here's Steven Tyler using his teenage daughter as "sexy video vixen."

Yet somehow, this was all good.

Which lady do you want to show up today? All of those videos are considered classics, and all of them happily put the female body on display for the viewer's enjoyment. Since the dawn of time, men have been congratulated for their conquests and women have been chastised. The funny thing is, if women aren't out there getting it for themselves, who the fuck would all these men be sexing up anyways? You want a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets? Why can't we be both whenever the hell we want? And pass that blunt while you're at it.

Miley isn't alone. On the flip side, reactions to Miley's love for nudity and constant singing about drugs has been met with a mixture of disgust and disapproval. Not that she is the only woman to experience this. Chvrches' Lauren Mayberry recently had to fight off online trolls who slut shamed her for wearing a dress. A regular dress. Not too short, not too revealing. Just, a dress. On top of the leering and shunning simultaneously taking place, we constantly glorify violent lyrical content and deify those are responsible for it. Dr. Dre anyone?

Double standards. So why is that men are allowed to proudly stick their dick in anything that moves and write a song that will later be remembered as a "classic," but women are expected to stick with the tired script of longing for love but always remembering to dress appropriately? It's time for expectations to change. This isn't the '50s, and women are just as sexual, fun, and ready to party as their male counterparts. You can't have a "freak in the sheets" and then expect her to act like every day is Sunday when you want her to.

Get over it. Our culture always likes to say that men can't help themselves and they can't cage the beast. Well guess what gentlemen, we ladies have beast inside us as well. And just remember, next time you want it to come out and play, you might want to rethink your rules for what is deemed acceptable behavior. Otherwise, the only lady you'll be seeing from now on is the one walking out your door.

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